Boaz Ministries
Many wives may be yearning to work on their marriages. Some women want their husbands to read relationship books with them or attend marriage seminars (and actually take notes). But how about getting his attention by working with the way God designed him? A great sex life won't solve the problems in marriage; however, it will fortify the husband's desire and commitment to work toward intimacy. Your sexual relationship could be the "on-ramp" to communication, conflict resolution, and building the emotional intimacy you desire. It's a potent force for encouraging reconciliation.
No amount of nagging, pleading, talking, or counseling can grab your husband's attention the way his sexual desire for you can. We see it in advertising. No approach is used more frequently or more successfully than sex appeal. Why not use it in your marriage? It has been said, "If you want to improve your marriage, invest in your underwear!"
By no means are we suggesting that you use sexuality to manipulate your husband! Withholding sex when you don't get your way or lavishing him with it when you do is manipulation. The Bible clearly states that married couples must not deprive one another unless the two are agreed – and even then, only for a time (1 Corinthians 7:5). We are encouraging women to embrace this fact: There are many forces in your husband's environment that use sex to garner his attention. They are stealing the power that God intended for you. Instead of sitting passively by, claim it!
In her book, “No More Headaches, Enjoying Intimacy in Your Marriage”, Dr. Juli Slattery says, “By God's good design, a man's sex drive is strong. If it is harnessed and intensified within marriage, it can be an incredible force fastening a man's affections and passions to his wife.” And we agree. It is right and godly to claim your husband’s sexual desire as a potent source of influence in your marriage. The Word of God tells us in Hebrews 13:4 that marriage is honorable among all and the bed, pure, undefiled! This is a sanctified and sacred part of a couple’s life that is not to be shared with anyone else. And it is an area given to creativity of expression.
Satan consistently twists into evil what God designed for good. Ladies - and gentlemen, this power that was intended for your marital intimacy is VERY good! Work it!
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