Get Ready for the Second Half!

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Our "How Can I Inspire Thee?" series will return with the second half the first week in October. Hope you've been doing your homework! Stay tuned!

B & B Edwards

Half Time - Review and Reflection!

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First, we thank everyone for reading, sharing, and responding so favorably to this series. Our goal is to provide the tips/tools that can help relationships - straight from men who have discovered the path to joy.

At this time, we'll pause at the half point to allow couples to take a moment to digest the first 50, and hopefully, apply and/or modify these morsels to fit your flow. In the next half, we will also include some suggestions that work here at Boaz! We invite you to dialogue with us.

In the meantime, take some time to review, reflect, and re/ignite!

B & B Edwards

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives, part 5 of 10

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1. Be careful to choose your words wisely, especially when angry.
2. Show affection for your wife in front of friends.
3. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.
4. Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
5. Make sure she has money to spend any way she would choose.
6. Don't focus on the physical features of another woman - it dishonors your wife.
7. Share the responsibilities around the house - without looking for special recognition.
8. Call, email or text your wife when you're apart -so she knows you are thinking of her.
9. Don't criticize her in front of others - keeping her dignity in tact.
10. Let her sleep in sometimes, and you get the children ready for the day.

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives, part 4 of 10

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1. View and treat your wife as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”
2. Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.
3. Do not make plans without her agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise).
4. Pro-actively do things that make your wife feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
5. Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.
6. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
7. Show interest in her friends, and, if they are trustworthy, encourage and support her when she plans to spend time with them.
8. Be enthusiastic about the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it.
9. Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.
10. You dated your wife before marriage, date her now - keep it FRESH!

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives, part 3 of 10

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1. Thank God for your wife by name when the two of you are praying together.
2. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
3. Be helpful, both before and during the time you have visitors in your home. (If you’re not sure of what to do, ask your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)
4. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
5. Be an involved partner in helping with the children and spending time together.
6. Don't belittle her intelligence.
7. Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.
8. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).
9. Put effort into keeping yourself in good shape so she’s especially proud to be with you.
10. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives, part 2 of 10

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1. Be supportive, help your wife finish her education and goals that are important to her.
2. Honor her and be verbally supportive in front of the children.
3. Keep her trust at all cost. Leave no gray area when it comes to other female relationships, money or your word (Dave Ramsey).
4. Ask her, and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
5. Pray about and then act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
6. Take time to touch every day, even if it's only for a minute or two.
7. Scratch her back, or rub her feet, or her neck, give her a massage, whatever she'd prefer.
8. Do not embarrass your wife by arguing with her in front of others.
9. Defend her to others - especially to your family.
10. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss - with no expectation to go further!

to be continued...

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives, part 1 of 10

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1. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to your wife.
2. Start and/or end each day holding hands in prayer with your wife.
3. Compliment her on the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.
4. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.
5. When you feel you must correct her, do so with gentleness. Speak the truth with LOVE.
6. Find something that makes you laugh together.
7. Give her grace when she offends you, and forgive(as you want to be forgiven).
8. Be a good listener. Show your wife you value what she says.
9. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
10. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.

...to be continued, amen!

How Can I Inspire Thee? There are at LEAST 1000 Ways! Husbands to Wives

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There is a body of exhaustive, comprehensive material out there that any couple dedicated to strengthening their relationship can access. In our research, we had to narrow the "Ways to Inspire" list down to 100 - husbands to wives. Bear in mind, these suggestions came from men who found success and are experiencing sustained joy, peace and increasing love in their marriages/relationships.

One husband stated that he created a list, presented it to his wife, and asked her to check all of the activities/actions that were most important to her; and the love games began. Wise man. The key: LOVE your woman (and your man), the way s/he needs to be loved/appreciated (Remember, "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary D. Chapman). Again, these are just suggestions - you may have your own that are working well - we'd love for you to share!

Coming with the first 10 tomorrow...stay tuned!

B & B Edwards