From Boaz Ministries https://www.facebook.com/theboazministries
For the single and/or dating…and married folks alike
First of all, what are our standards and how strong are our convictions about the basics in relationships? While we mull that over in our minds, there is such a thing as that instantaneous awareness that someone is special and speaks to your soul in a singular way that no one else ever has. But that “feeling” can be deceptive in the initial excitement. It needs to be tried and tested, and that takes time. And that takes prayer and patience. I have it on good authority that the “honeymoon phase” of a new relationship is about 90 days. After the euphoria has worn off and your best-foot-forward “representatives” have been sent back into their closets, if you still enjoy each other’s company without all the frills and thrills in the stark light of day – you may have the makings of something solid.
When you’re able to face problematic issues with maturity and understanding, when you choose your battles and keep your tongue and attitude in check because it’s just better to be quiet (and not feel bitter about holding your peace for the greater good), when you are in fact free to express your opinions without feeling belittled or ignored – you may indeed have something special. Some red flags are readily visible; some present themselves later on and during times of crises (when people tend to get “brand new”). The question then becomes, “is this a deal breaker?” Refer back to your standards.(you may do this often)
Shared interests and hobbies are key in the chemistry department. And even if you don’t share many of the same interests, your respect for each others' favorite past-time is vital. It’s not healthy when we merely tolerate our partner’s extracurricular hobbies or engage in them grudgingly. However, if we are accommodating and considerate of one another's activities that do not include us, and if we are willing to support, encourage and even join in with our partner - that’s a very good sign you are a good match. In a real love relationship, it’s never all about you. And if you both operate in that mindset – as I have said before – everybody gets served!
If you’re single and have met someone you’re interested in, observe the person for a while; check them out in their surroundings (that’s not stalking, btw). Determine what it is about them that might draw you closer. You may find out from observation that there is no chemistry at all. If you’re already dating that individual, honest communication can’t begin too soon, in my opinion. Keep it real. So much can be discovered when you’re observing and sharing openly – and those skills are the building blocks you will need in your future commitment/marriage.
Overall, intimacy IS chemistry, and I’m not just talking about sex. True intimacy is what you’re after in the long-run. Just FYI, great chemistry outside the bedroom enhances sexual intimacy in exponential measures! Some of the married folks already know there is nothing more satisfying than experiencing the natural ease of ebb and flow together no matter the situation or circumstance. Blessings abound when the time is taken to test the chemistry! With loving care and attention, chemistry in your relationships can be improved. We hope you take the time to try it, test it, then taste and see how sweet it is!
In the meantime, remember to love one another - fiercely!
First of all, what are our standards and how strong are our convictions about the basics in relationships? While we mull that over in our minds, there is such a thing as that instantaneous awareness that someone is special and speaks to your soul in a singular way that no one else ever has. But that “feeling” can be deceptive in the initial excitement. It needs to be tried and tested, and that takes time. And that takes prayer and patience. I have it on good authority that the “honeymoon phase” of a new relationship is about 90 days. After the euphoria has worn off and your best-foot-forward “representatives” have been sent back into their closets, if you still enjoy each other’s company without all the frills and thrills in the stark light of day – you may have the makings of something solid.
When you’re able to face problematic issues with maturity and understanding, when you choose your battles and keep your tongue and attitude in check because it’s just better to be quiet (and not feel bitter about holding your peace for the greater good), when you are in fact free to express your opinions without feeling belittled or ignored – you may indeed have something special. Some red flags are readily visible; some present themselves later on and during times of crises (when people tend to get “brand new”). The question then becomes, “is this a deal breaker?” Refer back to your standards.(you may do this often)
Shared interests and hobbies are key in the chemistry department. And even if you don’t share many of the same interests, your respect for each others' favorite past-time is vital. It’s not healthy when we merely tolerate our partner’s extracurricular hobbies or engage in them grudgingly. However, if we are accommodating and considerate of one another's activities that do not include us, and if we are willing to support, encourage and even join in with our partner - that’s a very good sign you are a good match. In a real love relationship, it’s never all about you. And if you both operate in that mindset – as I have said before – everybody gets served!
If you’re single and have met someone you’re interested in, observe the person for a while; check them out in their surroundings (that’s not stalking, btw). Determine what it is about them that might draw you closer. You may find out from observation that there is no chemistry at all. If you’re already dating that individual, honest communication can’t begin too soon, in my opinion. Keep it real. So much can be discovered when you’re observing and sharing openly – and those skills are the building blocks you will need in your future commitment/marriage.
Overall, intimacy IS chemistry, and I’m not just talking about sex. True intimacy is what you’re after in the long-run. Just FYI, great chemistry outside the bedroom enhances sexual intimacy in exponential measures! Some of the married folks already know there is nothing more satisfying than experiencing the natural ease of ebb and flow together no matter the situation or circumstance. Blessings abound when the time is taken to test the chemistry! With loving care and attention, chemistry in your relationships can be improved. We hope you take the time to try it, test it, then taste and see how sweet it is!
In the meantime, remember to love one another - fiercely!
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