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Folks can always get together to pose for the perfect family pic, correct? Well, today I must share something that needs to be at the top of the "ESSENTIAL THINGS TO DO LIST" for all single/dating individuals:
1. OBSERVE THE FAMILY!
I cannot stress this enough, beloved. And if you don't think it's important because your loved one is so amazingly wonderful, you're already in trouble! What you don't know WILL hurt you sooner than later, I guarantee it.
Ladies, we've heard the advice about watching how he treats his mother. This counsel is deeply rooted in age-old, time-tested experience. Men, it's equally important to check how your lady regards her father. And in the absence of parents, what's the relationship/interaction with other family members? I have witnessed too many "surprises" after marriage due to the lack of attention to details that were red flags all over the place during the dating period. Folks went ahead and got married; now they're "stuck".
If you've made your selection - please be informed. When you've decided that this person is THE ONE - then you should already know, as much as possible, about any congenital and heredity issues. These important conversations need to be had well before you say, "I do". You're playing for keeps and there's nothing wrong with equipping each other with the whole truth so the final decision is truly guided by LOVE.
I will say it again - with emphasis: OBSERVE THE FAMILY! Spend time with them, learn about idiosyncrasies, watch how problems are solved (or not), listen carefully to what people say (and don't say). This will be YOUR family one day. (Please don't think that you only marry the individual - wrong!)
It is much better and more honorable to throw up deuces before going to the alter, based on careful and prayerful consideration, than wishing you had.
Folks can always get together to pose for the perfect family pic, correct? Well, today I must share something that needs to be at the top of the "ESSENTIAL THINGS TO DO LIST" for all single/dating individuals:
1. OBSERVE THE FAMILY!
I cannot stress this enough, beloved. And if you don't think it's important because your loved one is so amazingly wonderful, you're already in trouble! What you don't know WILL hurt you sooner than later, I guarantee it.
Ladies, we've heard the advice about watching how he treats his mother. This counsel is deeply rooted in age-old, time-tested experience. Men, it's equally important to check how your lady regards her father. And in the absence of parents, what's the relationship/interaction with other family members? I have witnessed too many "surprises" after marriage due to the lack of attention to details that were red flags all over the place during the dating period. Folks went ahead and got married; now they're "stuck".
If you've made your selection - please be informed. When you've decided that this person is THE ONE - then you should already know, as much as possible, about any congenital and heredity issues. These important conversations need to be had well before you say, "I do". You're playing for keeps and there's nothing wrong with equipping each other with the whole truth so the final decision is truly guided by LOVE.
I will say it again - with emphasis: OBSERVE THE FAMILY! Spend time with them, learn about idiosyncrasies, watch how problems are solved (or not), listen carefully to what people say (and don't say). This will be YOUR family one day. (Please don't think that you only marry the individual - wrong!)
It is much better and more honorable to throw up deuces before going to the alter, based on careful and prayerful consideration, than wishing you had.
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