In our attempt to navigate through the murky waters of this topic - we've found it is more effective to provide clear definitions. When we are bound in any kind of inner turmoil or struggle, there is a feeling of isolation, of "apart-ness" that can overwhelm us. However, when we are able to face the issue, call it by its proper name, define it, acknowledge it - the power we've previously given to it decreases.
As we continue to impart these insights, below are definitions that clearly identify what we may be going through, at whatever stage we find ourselves. We also list some key reminders that can assist us in our quest to allow the Holy Spirit to free us from the strongholds of anger, and unforgiveness.
A Few Definitions
A. Anger is a strong
feeling of intense displeasure, hostility, or indignation as a result of
a real or imagined threat, insult, frustration, or injustice toward
yourself or others important to you.
B. Forgiveness is giving up resentment against someone else, along with your right to get even, no matter what has been done to you.
C. Unforgiveness is the
deliberate, willful refusal to give up one’s resentment and right to get
even, based on the attitude that someone must pay for the wrong done.
Important Reminders
A. As a believer, you have the responsibility to take the initiative in dealing with unforgiveness.
B. Forgiveness will not always be easy or quick. But you can’t allow it to take root in your life and turn into bitterness.
C. Forgiving is difficult because it is unselfish. It involves laying down strong feelings and rights while releasing the other person from his or her obligation to repay you.
D. You may never forgive if you wait until you “feel like it.”
E. Remember, forgiveness doesn’t always have to include going to the other person and confessing your resentment. Approach that individual only if the Lord directs you to do so.
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