From Boaz Ministries
Picture in your mind some of the things about your beloved that make you smile. Hold that thought.
I spoke with a couple recently who told me about their rule for arguments. They said one of the secrets of their success in their 34 years of marriage is they take a time out and *kiss* during arguments. Talk about a deescalation tool!!! They said there have been some majorly intense moments, but because of their rule (and neither one of them ever wanted to be the one to break it), they would kiss. All it takes is for one of them to say, "ok, we obviously need to kiss right now." (or something to that affect)
Doing so would immediately change their body chemistry. Sometimes the kiss might be a peck (always on the lips, however), but sometimes that peck would linger. And who can stay in anger mode after that? I was impressed by their commitment to work through their problems. They said they realized early on that they will have disagreements, but their devotion to one another would never allow them to crash and burn because of pride and stubbornness.
Their special "thing" is their kiss. And they knew they would not "forget" the why, how, or when - they sealed their union 34 years ago, if they brought it back whenever they needed a reminder.
Just wanted to share what I learned from some folks who know what it means to keep it fierce and moving forward - together!
I spoke with a couple recently who told me about their rule for arguments. They said one of the secrets of their success in their 34 years of marriage is they take a time out and *kiss* during arguments. Talk about a deescalation tool!!! They said there have been some majorly intense moments, but because of their rule (and neither one of them ever wanted to be the one to break it), they would kiss. All it takes is for one of them to say, "ok, we obviously need to kiss right now." (or something to that affect)
Doing so would immediately change their body chemistry. Sometimes the kiss might be a peck (always on the lips, however), but sometimes that peck would linger. And who can stay in anger mode after that? I was impressed by their commitment to work through their problems. They said they realized early on that they will have disagreements, but their devotion to one another would never allow them to crash and burn because of pride and stubbornness.
Their special "thing" is their kiss. And they knew they would not "forget" the why, how, or when - they sealed their union 34 years ago, if they brought it back whenever they needed a reminder.
Just wanted to share what I learned from some folks who know what it means to keep it fierce and moving forward - together!
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